Changes to Spice Up your Sex Life

4:19 PM Thursday, August 23, 2007

I have unwittingly found myself a member of a ygroups, whose objective is to provide a support system for those dealing with PCOS and infertility.

In the midst of all the ranting about arduous work-ups and disappointing results and news of other people getting pregnant... I kidded my sisters that I could at least help them in spicing up their sex lives, so that sex wouldn't be routine, given that their goal is to reproduce.

Anyway, I typed the following up for them... basic tips really to help them make making babies more fun :) I'll try to edit/modify as much as I can to make it sound more coherent and concise... but do remember that I am a lazy, pregnant, moody woman right now and what you;d read may be as good as it gets :)


anyway... you don't HAVE TO find yourself in THESE positions kasi feeling ko yung iba, maghahanap ka lang ng sakit ng katawan eh :D

tapos... granting that your hubby doesn't have any problems at all with sperm count and motility (although if you want, insist on him wearing boxers a week or two before your fertile phase, wala naman mawawala eh)... the focus should be on YOUR (the woman's) orgasm (kasi there are those who believe that it's very important in
creating this overall conducive environment for reproduction to take place)

tapos... granting that you married your sexual counterpart (at least, pareho kayo ng attitude towards sex), focus on the little things that you CAN modify and get that extra feeling of naughtiness and kinkiness

so ano-ano lang ba yun?

they say that the best positions for reproduction are still the missionary, doggie and woman on top (pag mababa din daw matres mo)... so syempre let's stick to these na lang... but you can spice it up by angling one extremity a certain way... you can combine face-to-face coitus with woman on top by actually lying on top of your hubs and making kinda ipit his pecker and grinding your pelvis on his (it can be a little painful for you, and yet really pleasurable din)... kung doggie naman, have your partner na parang naka-bend yung isang knee while the other parang tatayo na sya (yung nakaapak sa kama yung talampakan? basta this offers more support for him). that way pareho kayong asa kama... kung yun ang usual, eh di bend on all fours naman near the edge of the he can actually stand on the floor... kung woman on top and malakas-lakas ang thigh/leg muscles mo, sit on top of him... dont extend your legs forward but rather squat talaga on top of him and then move up and down (well ok fine, guys love this one more!)... kung missionary naman, yun nga, have your legs on his shoulders... or do that scissor thing while he pumps (actually sya dapat gagawa nun, iko-cross and uncross nya yung legs mo that are extended up as he pumps)

if you want to remain in the house, use the dining table instead... or the vanity table... or the floor... or the wall... this August 27 ata, Mars will be brightest daw (?)... so do it in your yard, garage or by the window where you can see the skies... If you have the moolah, check into your old motel haunts... a really sleazy-looking one (dyan sa may U Belt)... or a 3-star hotel...or a really swanky hotel... or really go on a conceptionmoon nga :D go away!!!

watch steamy videos first... get massages first... listen to erotica together... read erotica to each other... touch each other in ways you've never done before... feed aphrodisiacs to each other... heck, even watching games (as in basketball), playing games (Wii, PSP etc) or engaging in debates can turn us on and give us a high... even exercising together can do that...

even the horniest of couples fall into a routine din :) so try different ways to initiate it... use DIY-coupons... use the fishbowl technique in determining w/c things you'd do next... use a love dice if you want :) bathe each other first... or don't go showering at all... let him start from your toes... start w/ a massage... etc... have him striptease for you... give him a lap dance first... arrange w/ hubs first that you'd be prolonging the foreplay this time... or alang foreplay at all...

you can also build up the anticipation by engaging in sexual activities without totally going all the way before it's time... like, ust touching each other the whole night one night, then just kissing lips-to-lips one other night, then kissing every inch of the body another night, etc... until the day you're supposed to really engage in coitus

you don't have to be using hardcore dildos and vibes... but a clit vibe (P400 lang sa Pride Exchange dyan sa may Nakpil) could do wonders while he's pumping and using it on you (lalo na if he's tamad or not always in-the-know where the clit is)... blindfolds... whipped cream on chests (avoid sweets lang talaga on your nether
regions... avoid infection pls, as bacteria thrives in moist, sugary places, wehehe), honey, wine, ropes (as in tie him up sa chair before sitting on him)... use pillows to your advantage... use feather boas... use your favorite stuffed toy... use silk hankies... use leather belts

ehem ehem... role playing games po at hindi papalitan talaga si hubs :D Pretend you're the maid and he's the amo...or you're the boss and he's the driver... converse as if you're having an affair... converse as if it's your first time... etc. If you want, wear outfits... like old uniforms na kasya pa... explore your
fetishes and fantasies together... pretend to be a sex worker if you want (and get him to pay din, like P100 for every button popped, P500 for every clothing removed... aba, the ecstasy of more shopping money might contribute to the orgasms)

Opkors... some changes, you may want to discuss w/ your partner first... who might not be too keen on seeing you with a belt on your hand :)

Even if you're not TTC (trying to conceive), these are just simple things to keep in mind to keep the flame burning... and bond you and hubs closer together... You know yourself and your partner best... just start with baby steps... don't do anything you're not too comfy with, and be realistic (not everyone gets turned on by really dirty talk) and flexible (if two pillows under your butt isn't for you, say so and
improvise) and don't forget to have fun :)

Send this e-mail to hubs :D Kasi he has to be pleasing you... and a woman is more likely to be multiple orgasmic if she's been primed all day :)


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